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But my family has such a high proportion of people with Asperger's that this video, honestly, is not far from what our life is like. I only need one finger to move one inch back and forth to masturbate. I told him I thought all the other women were faking it for him because masturbation is not visual. I did not realize that this exchange meant that I had to be the aggressor in bed. We can't do this whole date and not kiss.” She said, “I need you to seduce me.” I said, “What? We had sex two times in six years after we had a kid. These are tiny cues that have to come with other, tiny cues. And I tried to pay close attention to nonverbal cues and then respond with the appropriate nonverbal cue.

In my experience, the places with the most rules are work and sex. You can tell you need help if you are not having fun. He told me to undress, showed me a dressing room, and gave me a robe. And I got pregnant both times because I have studied my ovulation since I was 24, and I'm an ace at sticking my finger up my vagina and 1) gauging how open my cervix is and 2) pulling out some mucus on my finger and checking to see how elastic it is.

Even if you tell me, “Just say fine,” sometimes the situation looks special to me, and I can't figure out why it's special, so I can't talk. Picture her: The professional ballet dancer who had just quit, and to celebrate, she got breast implants. I told her that we were really ineffective together and I thought we needed some guy there with us to run the show. For example, there was the guy who asked me out while I was an arbitrage clerk at the Chicago Mercantile Exchange. We both like reading about sex, but having it is more traumatic.

So I’ve spent my life teaching myself the rules for what to do in each social situation. Surround yourself with people who can effectively guide you through rules. And me, the aspiring professional beach volleyball player. He was on the phones, picking up orders, and I'd stand in the British Pound pit, flashing hand signals to him to tell him what was bid and offer. He would not go down on me, so I started writing obsessively about his not going down on me. But then he saw that I don't know left and right, really, and my math skills end, largely, at third grade, and I am an idiot savant when it comes to memorizing statistics about Gen Y tendencies at work. And he has learned that the only way to get me uncurled is to talk to me. He says what he's doing with his hands, what he is feeling, what we will do, what I have done, he tries to stick to facts. And he does not expect me to move or speak, until I've heard enough verbal cues to get back in the game.

I forget who said this, but if you’ve met one aspie, you’ve met one aspie. But you shouldn’t define yourself by Asperger’s either. If you’re calling yourself aspie89 on Tinder then you need to rethink your existence. Because if you do, you’re going to be an empty freaking hole that no one wants to talk to. People on the spectrum generally aren’t that approachable. I don’t have people chatting me up trying to be my friend. You want a nice guy who’s going to like you for your other qualities too.

Someone like that probably won’t have the patience to deal with you. If he’s one of those people you can’t say anything to without worrying if you’ll piss him off, hell no. You can have a fling with whoever you want, but long term you’re going to have to date defensively. A lot of the time the best person for you is someone you might not have that much in common with outwardly. They might feel like you expect them to reciprocate with their own information when they don’t want to yet. Let them know that you might have some funny habits so they won’t be completely shocked later on.

If you feel comfortable with someone, that’s the most important thing. Laying yourself out like that also gives the other person all of the power. I think people with Asperger’s are prone to falling madly in love immediately. Now’s the time you need to set your own boundaries. You might want to see your partner every second at first. I’m not sure when you’re supposed to tell them you’re on the spectrum. But certainly don’t wait until after you’re married.

Also, try to figure out if the person you like is patient. He talked about the patients like they were a joke. Oversharing puts expectations on the other person that they’re probably not ready to fill. Make sure you communicate well enough with your partner to address both of your needs.

He didn’t seem to have thought about what it must be like to not be able to tell what’s real and what isn’t. When most people say that they mean look for someone in your psychology class. Those are good tips, but there’s no guarantee that you’ll find a relationship that way. They don’t want to feel like they have to save you from yourself right away. For every stubborn aspie douchebag there’s probably two who are desperate enough to give up most things to keep someone. If you’re a woman, a shady partner will try to isolate you from your friends before he does God knows what else. Or she’ll try to make you play less videogames and read less Jabba the Hutt fanfic so you can “be a man.” Fuck that. Explain to them why you’re withdrawing when you need time alone.